Monday, March 30, 2009

Parenting

So, I have finally finished the new Jodi Picoult book, Handle with Care. Good, not great. It's sorta sad that the first JP book I read was My Sister's Keeper and now I have to compare everything to that one. Handle with Care wasn't as good as that (nothing is) but it was better than most of her other stuff. Sucky ending. For those who are interested in My Sister's Keeper, lemme just give you a quick rundown. Parents have boy and girl, family is complete. Girl, four years old, gets leukemia. Boy not match. Parents use IVF to develop embryos (not actually cloning, they use their own sperm and egg, it's not a sci-fi book) and they pick the embryo that is a perfect match for girl with leukemia. Get preggers, carry to term, baby girl is born, use stem cells for BMT for older sister. All is well for a while, older sister has recurrences, baby sister must do another BMT and multiple blood transfusions. Story starts with big sister, now like fifteen, needing a kidney and baby sister deciding that she doesn't want to give it, so she sues her parents for the right to refuse. Ya'll. IT'S SO GOOD! At first, you think 'what a brat' and then you hate the mother, and then, if you're like me, you give birth to Ava and you realize that you would do the same thing, every last thing that mother does. Man, I love that book! I should read it again.

Anyway, I digress. So, I finished that one, and now I have to get back to the parenting book I got, because Scott is OUT OF CONTROL. Seriously. I think to myself at least a hundred times a day, 'I shoulda learned how to take care of the first two before I had another one.' Makes me feel very irresponsible. For those of you who think these kids so close together was an accident, not even close. We chose to do it this way!

Ava is a typical three year old- sassy, defiant, stubborn. She has a particular aversion to me, but she obeys Nick slightly better. At least seems to understand the need to obey, even if she has a hard time most of the time. She's finally stopped mouthing off, for the most part, but now, when we are being stern with her, she flings her hands at us. It's hard to explain unless you've seen it, but trust me, it's VERY disrespectful. She also continues to grab her brother and like, wail on him! She slaps his hand, spanks his butt, just goes crazy. Now, we do spank in this house, but not like that! And I know her sitter doesn't spank, so I don't understand where she's picked this up, and I don't know how to stop it. One night, she did it in the tub, so I yanked her out, told her she'd been naughty and was going straight to bed, then didn't speak to her while I got her ready and put her in the bed. Then I got Scott out, got him ready, and read him a story while she screamed in her bed that she wanted a story too. Then we talked about it, she apologized, and I got her out to read a quick, short book. For a while after that, whenever she got that look in her eye, I reminded her about that night, and she stopped. But by now, she's over it.

And Scott. Ohh, my little boy. He's not trying to be disrespectful like her, he just wants to have fun, he wants to do things his way, and he wants everything RIGHT NOW. He will not listen, he will not obey...he has terrible table manners, he throws food at all of us, he refuses to use a spoon...and then he just smiles and crinkles up his eyes. Now what am I supposed to do with that kid? Seriously, what I am supposed to do? All suggestions welcome, please!

And Warren, my little baby. Slept till three thirty this morning!!! Hooray! I'm still a little hurt that he didn't sleep thru at four weeks like Scott, but hey. He didn't do it on purpose. I'll take one night feeding, no problem! Well, actually, Nick took that one. But I think in a sleepy haze of confusion, I promised that I would do it from now on if he would please just do it tonight because I'm exhausted. Maybe that was a dream. I hope so. Promises made while half asleep shouldn't count!!!

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